Becoming a Father | The Bearded Dads survival Guide.


It’s been little over a week now since I last wrote anything on my blog. I wanted to spend every possible moment with my little family and take some time to reflect on the events that have recently changed my life.

I would be lying if I said that the last 7 days have been easy. In short, they haven’t. But that’s not to say that it hasn’t been the most amazing experience I have been through in my entire life. Life has totally changed for us both and it hasn’t been easy. With that said; I think that Emma and I have taken parenthood by the reigns and faced it head on as if life had always been this way. The hardest part for me is sleep. Getting enough sleep is really hard. Amber now dictates when we can sleep, and it usually means we have to have naps throughout the day so we don’t have a meltdown. My outlook on life has changed in such a short period of time, as have my priorities. Amber is now first and foremost in every aspect. We have to look after this little human because her life literally depends on it. I now want to spend some time and share our birth story with the world. I have had a few people ask me to share so I have decided now is the right time.

The Birth

Emma was booked in to be induced on Tuesday 21st August at Burnley Hospital Birth Suite; after 2 unsuccessful sweeps. We packed our bags early that morning and arrived at the hospital shortly before 07:00 for our appointment. The midwife we saw first inserted a pessary and we were told we just had to wait it out now. Emma was given a bed on the ante-natal ward whilst we waited for the pessary to start her labour. Unfortunately, it didn’t exactly work and we spent all that day and the following day waiting for something to happen. By the next morning, there was still no sign of Emma going into labour, had the hospital not been so busy it would be likely Amber would have been born that day. However, The birth Suite was very busy and had some complicated births that day so everything was a little behind schedule. We had to wait for a bed in the birth suite all that day and eventually got one at about 09:45 on the 22nd August. At that point we were already both pretty knackered; I had spent the previous night sleeping on the hospital floor and probably managed an hour at most.
We were taken to the birth suite and Emma had her waters broken by a doctor very shortly after. At first, labour came on slowly, contractions were faint and far apart. It took a while for labour to really kick in. It wasn’t until the midwife gave Emma a syntocinon drip to bring on labour faster. This method worked very well for us and Emma went into heavy labour shortly after the drip was administered.
Em was also experiencing severe back pains as the contractions came. The midwife gave her a form of pain relief that was injected into her arm. It did work and the pain did subside for a short period of time.
Emma felt that her body had started to naturally push at around 03:00 on the 23rd August and that is when the drip I mentioned above was administered.
At 05:00 Emma was examined by the doctor again and she confirmed that Emma was 10cm dilated and was ready to start pushing. I have to say seeing how well Emma managed through the pain and discomfort was very inspiring. There is no way on earth I could have endured what she had to that morning; regardless of how much pain she was in, she did not give up once. She battled through it.
Emma was pushing for hours and hours with still no sign of baby coming. It was very difficult for me to see her in pain but I knew that I had to stay strong for her. By 08:00 on the 23rd August we still had no baby and Emma was totally exhausted and in a great deal of pain. The midwife made the decision that Emma would have to be taken to theatre to deliver our baby. From a quick examination, the baby was not in a good position making it very difficult for her to be delivered.
I can’t remember exactly what time it was that Emma was taken to theatre; by that time I didn’t even know what day it was. Emma was given an epidural and Amber was born at 09:41 on Thursday 23rd August Weighing 7lbs 6oz. She was brought into the world via forceps. Emma was very reluctant to have an epidural before birth saying she definitely didn’t want one. But after pushing all night and being in severe pain she was very happy to be numbed and for it all to be over. I was lucky enough to be allowed to be with her in theatre and watched our daughter come into the world. It was a beautiful moment, one that I will remember for the rest of my life.

I would just like to note at how amazing all the NHS staff were with us. We have not had a bad experience in the whole 9 months Emma was pregnant. The doctors in theatre were amazing, ensuring me and Emma were both calm, they put Disney songs on at Emma’s request and kept her mind at ease. There is no way we will ever be able to pay them back for what they did for us that day. They were all truly amazing.
We are so blessed that Amber is a healthy little girl and was able to come home the following day (Friday 24th August).
We are now 7 days postpartum and both Emma and Amber are doing really well. She is slowly getting into a good routine and is feeding really well (breastfeeding).

Before I go I would like to point out that I have also changed my Instagram name to @meet_the_crockers, I have wanted to change it for a while now but wanted to wait until Amber was born. For now, my website is going to stay The Bearded Dads Survival Guide but may change at some point in the near future.

Thank you if you got this far!